• Angelene Woodard

2018 Word of the Year


Is it just me or have y’all noticed everyone declaring one special word to live by for the new year?

Is this a new trend? It’s not. Is it?

Sigh. I’m just now catching on. As usual – I’m a little behind.

Anyway, I like it. It’s like a quick and easy summary of the upcoming year one hopes to have. It’s a resolution, a way of thinking, and a goal all wrapped up into one simple word.

All right. Here’s the word I have chosen for 2018.

Acceptance.


Lemme explain.

Has anyone ever given you a compliment and instead of accepting the very flattering opinion just offered, you argue instead?

Nice person: “Hey. I like your shirt. That’s pretty.”

Me: “What? This? Really, it’s so old. Look there’s a hole in the armpit.”

Or

Nice person: “Your children are so sweet and well behaved.”

Me: “Yeah they are! Because I threatened them within an inch of their little lives right before we got here.”

Or – a little different example.

Nice person: “Here! Let me help you carry those bags.” (While the children run amuck, books and legos spill out of the van, and the baby screams from his five-point-harness.)

Me: “No, no. I’m good. I got it. Thanks though.”

Isn’t it so much more polite, and dare I say, more mature to just simply say, “Thank you”?

Nice person: “Your hair looks nice today.” (Even though my gray roots (I call them Groots) are visible and my ends are so frazzled one may think I have been chewing on them.)

Me: “Oh! Well, thank you so much.”

Nice person: “You are welcome.”

We can’t really accept the sweet opinions or kind help from others when we are too busy disputing with them. Likewise, we cannot accept their compliments and assistance if we haven’t already accepted the fact that we may actually need/want it.

This is how so many of us are with the Lord.

Oh, all right! This is how I am with the Lord.

Why is it I can’t accept a simple compliment from a friend? I will give you a clue.

It’s the same reason I can’t accept help/improvement/relief from the Lord.

I am too busy focusing on doing it all by myself. Too busy focusing on every little imperfection.

This is an extraordinary way of focusing on myself – instead of my God.

Whaaa?

Yep. That’s right.

The Deceiver confuses me once again. It doesn’t matter if I am sitting around thinking about how awesome or how pathetic I am. Either way, I am not sitting around thinking about how amazing God is and how He can interfere in my life.

I am focused on myself, my insecurities, my weaknesses and shortcomings.

I am focused on how very many things in my life need to be improved upon.

I am focused on the small details – instead of what really matters.

This is such a sneaky way of keeping my focus off my Lord.

What I need to do is:

  1. Accept my problems, infirmities, and weakness.

  2. Accept help from Heaven with maturity and thanksgiving.

God cannot intervene on our behalf until we accept ourselves for who we are and accept Him for who He is.

(Well, He can. But, it’s my experience that He just waits to be invited.)

Acceptance. Acceptance.

This year’s word is all about accepting ourselves as is.

That means we can stop trying to just be better on our own.

Then, we can accept His grace and mercy.

Do you have a word for the new year?

Thanks for reading. Happy New Year to you and yours!

As always, I invite your comments. Oh, and of course, I want you to share this post if it you find it helpful/funny/acceptable. (See what I did there?)

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