• Angelene Woodard

The Right Way to Ask God for Something


“Mom, can I have dessert?"

"No."

"But I ate all of my snack."

"No. You do not get ice cream because you ate some crackers."

"Puhleez. I won't tell the others."

"No."

"Just one piece of candy? I will share some with you."


And so it goes from here. This is the conversation that never ends. Or ceases to amaze me.

These super sweet children of mine are relentless.

They ask and ask and ask. Harass, really.

They know I have the power; I am the grantor of all tasty treats.

They know the only way to get what they want is through me. (Unless, of course, they are straight up sneaking candy without permission - which totally happens here at our house. Not gonna lie.)

It reminds me of when I ask the Lord for stuff.

And the bible totally says to do that.

Matthew 7:7 says this:

Ask and it shall be given you: seek, and ye shall find; knock, and it shall be opened unto you:

Ask-and-ye-shall-receive is mentioned multiple times. So, why don't I have everything my heart desires?

More than likely, it's not God's will for me right now. I get it.

Or maybe it's because I'm asking all wrong in the first place. Am I asking amiss? James 4:3 speaks to this.

When I'm completely honest, I am waay too much like these kiddos begging

for something they want, but don't need.

Begging for something that is unhealthy.

Begging for something I think I worked for.

Begging for more - because who doesn't want more?

Or maybe it's because I'm not asking at all.

I plead my case to the Lord. I justify, legitimize, and validate my desires and reasoning. I am willing to be patient - for a bit.

Here's where I go wrong.

I'm not really asking.

Asking is more than telling God the current situation and the desired future outcome.

Asking requires humility.

Asking requires opening oneself up to trusting the Giver completely.

Asking requires a question mark at the end.

"Father, we really need You to fix this. You are the only One that can. We trust You will take care of it. This is a serious situation and we are leaving it with You. We ask this in Your name."

As sincere as this prayer is, there is no question mark. This is not a request. This example is full of declarative sentences.

"God In Heaven, we have a situation that requires Your intervention. Will you fix this? Will You grant us answers? Will You allow us to see victory?"

This prayer is full of requests. Simple questions waiting for divine answers.

God is the ultimate Giver. We are nothing more than receivers.

Maintaining our appropriate role is imperative.

Asking, as opposed to pleading and whining and fretting, changes the prayer completely.

How we go about communing with God, asking for His will and intervention in our lives, is indicative of the position of our hearts.

The bible says to ask and receive. It does not say to beg, plead, whine, and make deals so we can get what we want.

Are we asking God for serious answers? Are we begging for another quick-fix that satisfies the demanding sweet tooth?

Or are we approaching His throne with the knowledge of who we are and who He is?

What matters is if we are sincerely asking with a humble heart, according to His will, and trusting Him fully for the answers.

Angelene Woodard is a wife, mother, writer, and reluctant homeschooler who blogs about her frustrations and victories at www.unqualifiedmom.com where she encourages fellow Christians to embrace their weakness and accept His strength. Click on the link to subscribe.