Are You Missing the Point of Motherhood?
Do you ever feel like you have no clue how to be a mother? Or is that just me?
Most days my main objective as a mother is to keep my offspring from killing one another. We are a nature documentary titled Survival of the Fittest.
Seriously, if it were not for the fact that I am, indeed, a larger organism than these children, they would have eaten me (and one another) alive by now.
Some days I am nothing more than the one who prepares meals. Or the one who drives them to allll of their places. Or the one who, like a maniac, argues with them about what clothes they wear.
Why am I arguing with a four-year-old?
Listed below are my top trending feelings:
So stinkin’ tired
(Yes, I just gave you a bulleted list of my feelings. Thank you for indulging me.)
Being a mother is tough on the good days. It is ridiculously easy to become overwhelmed, feel inadequate, and question my role.
Surely there’s more to this motherhood gig than being a modern-day slave to the people I love more than life itself?
Well, like any good nerd who makes a bulleted list of her feelings would do, I did a little research. The dictionary written by Noah Webster in 1828 is my go-to source.
Here are a few definitions of the word mother:
materials from which anything is made
a mold for castings
a producer, origin, cause, root
a female parent
that which has produced anything
Today’s God-loving mother can be accurately described as all of these.
Mothers are molders, the cause and root, producers.
Obviously, we are producing babies. Children. But it goes deeper than that. I know many mothers who didn’t produce their babies. They adopted their babies. And yet, they are indeed, that child’s mother.
The not-so-obvious answer is that a Christian mother produces a disciple for Christ.
The mother figure in a home is of vital importance. Her role is crucial. That’s how God designed it.
A mother is a child's first friend. She teaches the child how to trust and depend on another soul for absolutely everything.
This trait is necessary for a close walk with Jesus. Children first learn about Jesus' unconditional love through their relationship with their mother.
Being on time to soccer practice, serving organic snacks, and folding mountains of laundry is the part of motherhood that doesn't really matter.
The simple moments of gentle guiding, answering their innocent questions, and softly begging God to undo all of our mistakes does matter.
Whispering desperate prayers in the midst of the chaos matters.
Sharing Jesus' story of love and forgiveness matters.
Encouraging our children to slowly let go of our hand so they can grasp onto His matters.
Motherhood is loving our children and teaching them to love Jesus.
And thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thine heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy might.
And these words, which I command thee this day, shall be in thine heart: And thou shalt teach them diligently unto thy children, and shalt talk of them when thou sittest in thine house, and when thou walkest by the way, and when thou liest down, and when thou risest up.
Angelene Woodard is a wife, mother, writer, and reluctant homeschooler who blogs about her frustrations and victories at www.unqualifiedmom.com where she encourages fellow Christians to embrace their weakness and accept God's strength.